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Own Your “Stomp”!

November 28, 2011

Have you seen the video of this NFL player “losing it” on Thanksgiving? YAHOO dubbed it “the stomp heard round the world”.

As troubling as that was his “explanation” below is more disturbing.

Let me offer this advise: Don’t judge Ndamukong Suh. You have some Suh in you. So do I. Your “stomp” may look different but we have all stomped. (Unfortunately for Suh, he has multiple “stomps” without accepting responsibility in his brief NFL career.)

Truthfully, I’ve made up excuses to deflect attention from my bad behavior. So have you. Sometimes it’s subtle. Sometimes it’s obvious.

Maybe that explains why we react so strongly to Suh’s immature denial. We’re privately glad our inconsistencies aren’t recorded in HD and replayed on TV and YouTube.

Here’s how you know if you have some Suh in you:

Marriage: When you think about improving your marriage does it usually start by working on your spouses weakness rather than your own?

Finances: Do you blame a spouse, former employer, financial adviser, business partner, or politicians for all of your current financial hardship?

Pain: When you replay the pain of your past do only see the faces of other people?

Why do we blame others completely even when we know we had some part in the problem? Because we’re tricked. By who? By ourselves!

The prophet Jeremiah warns us that “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jer. 17:9)

Often the only reason our past remains with us is because we have yet to own our part in the situation. “The consequences of deceit are usually greater than the one of the truth.” – Henry Cloud

Until you identify and own your responsibility, you will be stuck in the past.

“As long as I get away with ______, I will not recover from __________.” Andy Stanley

The NFL should apply this principle. So should we.

Have you owned your part in your finances? Your marriage? Your past hurt? Your relationship with a co-worker?

Don’t stand up at the podium and say, “But I was just trying to catch my balance when THEY…”

Stand up & own your “stomp”!


From → Leadership

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  1. Update: Suh received a two-game (without-pay) suspension by the NFL and a $50K fine his team (Detroit Lions). You can read more about it here:

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