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With This One Statement You Could Change Your Kid’s Life

May 10, 2012

As a parent, you want to raise kids who are “comfortable in their skin” and have the confidence to pursue extraordinary things for God.

I want that for my son and my 3 daughters!

I want to share a statement you can begin telling your kids today that can make a HUGE difference in their future confidence.

In his book Decision Points, George W. Bush said:

“As I got older, I came to see my parent’s love was unconditional. I know because I tested it. I had two car wrecks when I was fourteen, the legal driving age back then. My parents still loved me. I borrowed Dad’s car, carelessly charged in reverse, and tore the door off. I poured vodka in the fishbowl and killed my little sister Doro’s goldfish. At times I was surly, demanding, and brash. Despite it all, my parents loved me. Eventually their patient love affected me. When you know you have unconditional love, there is no point in rebellion and no need to fear failure.”

Personally, my parents have always given me unconditional love. My Mom often told me, “Mark there is never anything you could do that would keep me from loving you.” I believed her.

What was she doing? She was dripping unconditional love into my heart. That eventually turned into a solid foundation of confidence from which I continue to leap over and over again as an adult.

Now I repeat this same statement to my kids. Holding them, I quietly say, “You know you could never do anything . . .” They interrupt me and say, “I know Dad. I could never do anything to keep you from loving me.” Drip . . . drip . . . drip.

Each time you say it, the truth takes a deeper root in your heart and theirs. Drip . . . drip . . . drip.

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8 Comments
  1. Katie Moore permalink

    This is so true. I tell my daughter that same sentence at least once a day. I tell her there is nothing she can do that will cause God to stop loving her. I tell her God created her in His image and He loves her so that means she have to love herself also. I remember what it was like growing up and thinking my mom didin’t love me and I NEVER want my daughter to feel that way also. I want her to grow up knowing she is surrounded in love. Thanks for this post. 🙂

    • Wow Katie! Thanks for sharing some of your experience. I love how you’re taking it to the next step by teaching your daughter about God’s unconditional love for her. You and Brandn are great parents!

  2. Larry Valenzuela permalink

    Was talking with my ex about my son and the discipline issues we face this week. This is so true man! I put it this way: “The first thing is unconditional love. I know it sounds simple in words… “of course we love our kids unconditionally”, but in practice…” ” We have to teach him that love, real love, our love, is absolutely unconditional we have to explain to him that we love him no matter what even when he doesn’t chose wisely. That that love will never change. He can’t make us not love him.” In the end the best example of a parent is God and man is his love unconditional!

    • That’s so good. Unconditional love requires the freedom for mess ups (big & small). Thanks Larry.

  3. Lori Keebler permalink

    This is close to what I would tell my kids: “I love you no matter what…you do, you say, you don’t do…whatever…!

    • Lori that is such a great way to remind your kids that your love is not based on their behavior. I love that! Thanks for sharing.

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